How to easily improve your relationship with uncertainty can sound like one of those too-good-to-be-true promises. It’s that word ‘easily’.
You may be wondering if it can be that easy. Because you may find it really hard to live with uncertainty.
Especially in these challenging times when we are living with it every day on so many levels. There may be the uncertainty around the health issue you’re living with, politically, the pandemic, etc, etc. It’s a shed load to contend with.
But what if it’s easy to improve your relationship with uncertainty?
What if you told yourself, ‘I can learn this and I can learn this pretty quickly.’ Sit with that for a moment. Feel what it’s like to learn quickly. Keep holding the belief, that yes, ‘this can be easy for me’.
Here are easy-to-use techniques that will help you improve your relationship with uncertainty
Each technique listed here is easy to do. It’s not rocket science. But you need to practice them to make them more automatic.
I provide 11 techniques with some inspirational quotes interspersed among them. (I love a good inspirational quote!)
It’s like a pick and mix. Use what resonates with you.
Aim to choose several. Having more than one way to help yourself can be a potent recipe for improving your relationship with uncertainty.This blog is packed full of easy-to-use techniques to help you learn to deal with uncertainty without stressing yourself out so much about it #takecontrol #uncertainty #wellness Click To Tweet
The 11 techniques to improve your relationship with uncertainty
1. Be mindful of your thoughts
Start to notice how often you criticise yourself, worry about the future, the past, other people, etc. as compared to how often you are self-compassionate. Self-awareness can be powerful.
2. Remember, you don’t have to believe every single thing you think
Particularly if you’re thinking and worrying about the future, worrying about what others may think of you, and what they do and don’t do.
3. Bring yourself into the here and now
You can do that by noticing five things around you that you can see and touch around you – your cup of tea/coffee, your phone, a book, a pen, etc.
4. Seek ways to reassure yourself
- It will be ok.
- That you’ve been in a similar situation and survived that.
Have a number of ways to reassure yourself.
5. Sense check how much in control you are
Do that by listening to the language you use. To learn how, watch this video. It’s 11 minutes long.
6. Figure out what you can control and what you cannot and therefore need to let go of
Learn how by watching this video on Stephen Covey’s Spheres of Control, Influence and Concern (1989). It’s also 11 minutes.
7. Talk about it with someone you trust who won’t judge you
This helps you to:
- Acknowledge what is going on for you which is a powerful thing to do. This helps you make the unknown known
- That in turn helps you to say how you are feeling. When you do this, you ‘contain’ your feelings so they don’t turn into overwhelm.
- And doing that helps you to identify your needs.
8. Self-compassion helps too
You can’t have too much of this. Stockpile it. Use it regularly.
9. Ask yourself: What has enabled me to get this far?
This is a great way of reminding yourself of your strengths.
10. Focus on the good stuff happening in your current situation
Even if it’s small stuff. You’ve got to keep exercising your appreciation muscle. Writing it down helps to reinforce it.
11. And remember, everything is figure-out-able
What’s it like for you?
What is your relationship with uncertainty currently like? Which of the techniques above will you try first?
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© Copyright Barbara Babcock 2020
Covey, S.R. (1989) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change. London, UK: Simon & Schuster UK Ltd.