How to heal your health by connecting to yourself

How to heal your health by connecting to yourself

You could be living with a long-term medical condition or had a serious illness or injury and feel you have adjusted to the changes it brought to your life. But then as you are doing something, the enormity of the difference in your life now may suddenly come flooding back and you find yourself trying to ward off strong emotion.

In response, other people may say things like, ‘But you’ve been doing so well!’ And you have been. You’ve been taking measures to be well in mind, heart, body and soul and so these surges of emotion feel out of place, not right and concerning.

You may worry that these emotions will engulf you and you will end up not being able to shake them. That is a common concern and hence why the thought of being in touch with emotions like sadness, anger, hurt, and loss can feel scary.

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Fear of engulfment by strong emotions. B Babcock 2016

These unexpected surges of emotion can be very normal and are part of the adjustment process, even if they are occurring some years after the onset of the condition/illness/injury.* They are coming to the surface because they want your attention in some way, shape or form.

I was reminded that you can give your emotions the attention they want in a way that feels right for you. This happened in May while I was watching the BBC two part documentary of Gareth Malone creating the Invictus Choir of service men and women who live with the ongoing impact of the trauma and/or injury they experienced while serving in the UK military.

So here is how one member of that choir gave their unexpected emotions some attention, and how you can do that to enhance your health.


Have you faced your mortality and survived?

Have you faced your mortality and survived?

Unexpectedly experiencing a rapid onset of a long-term condition or serious illness is a scary thing. You don’t know what is happening to your body. Minute by minute, even second by second, you are in more and more pain and becoming more helpless. You cannot control anything. You think, ‘I am dying.’

Eventually, you get help. You’re in hospital. You survive.

You faced your mortality, something which not many people have to do.

This is something my coaching clients and people I support in the charity where I work often speak of and how that experience often stays with them long past the acute stage. They describe how the memories come back, sometimes unexpectedly. That along with missing your previous life, learning how to live with a changed body, wondering why you feel stuck yet want to move forward but not sure how, it is normal to feel the way you do. You have a lot going on.

It’s a profound thing to have felt and realised, ‘My time in this life is ending.’ Given the enormity of this, there isn’t a quick fix solution to feeling better. It can take time but there are three things you can be doing now to move yourself forward. Read on to find out.


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